THE BEST FRIEND’S BOYFRIEND
Girly discussions with single friends often see statements like “The good guys are already taken…”. Disclaimer: ‘all good guys are taken’ is NOT equal to ‘all taken guys are good’. There’s many a taken guy who you think is a jerk. Problem area: Your best friend is dating him. Bigger problem: She wants the two of you to “get to know each other better”.
Keeping him at arm’s length can go for a toss when you’re expected to make polite conversation with him on the phone, chat with him online etc. etc. And its not like he wants to get pally either, but you both end up making the effort for her sake, all the while thinking that it would sooooo much simpler if you could just tell her that u don’t like each other!!! Unfortunately, no amount of good-natured effort will prevent it from resulting in you seeing lesser and lesser of her. It always begins with her trying to juggle her time between the two of you, and then ending up spending more time with him because he keeps wanting to meet her ALL the time (which is one of the reasons you think he’s a jerk.. other reasons being he’s jealous, possessive and doesn’t support her career plans). And of course, you’ve got to understand each time she cancels on you to meet him, because you know she’d understand if you’d done the same (even though you like to tell yourself you’d never do it:D)
As things turn out, you’ve got to make an effort to like him (kinda reminds me of Joey trying to get along with Janice:D) because you don’t want to end up losing her. But then, she also wants to talk to you when they’re having problems, and all the time you’re listening to her, the voice in your head goes “Dump him!!! You can definitely do better!!!!!” Now you obviously can’t say that, so all that can be done is to cross your fingers and hope she sees sense someday.
Conclusion: Even if your best friend’s dating a jerk, there’s no way you can stop seeing him.
Girly discussions with single friends often see statements like “The good guys are already taken…”. Disclaimer: ‘all good guys are taken’ is NOT equal to ‘all taken guys are good’. There’s many a taken guy who you think is a jerk. Problem area: Your best friend is dating him. Bigger problem: She wants the two of you to “get to know each other better”.
Keeping him at arm’s length can go for a toss when you’re expected to make polite conversation with him on the phone, chat with him online etc. etc. And its not like he wants to get pally either, but you both end up making the effort for her sake, all the while thinking that it would sooooo much simpler if you could just tell her that u don’t like each other!!! Unfortunately, no amount of good-natured effort will prevent it from resulting in you seeing lesser and lesser of her. It always begins with her trying to juggle her time between the two of you, and then ending up spending more time with him because he keeps wanting to meet her ALL the time (which is one of the reasons you think he’s a jerk.. other reasons being he’s jealous, possessive and doesn’t support her career plans). And of course, you’ve got to understand each time she cancels on you to meet him, because you know she’d understand if you’d done the same (even though you like to tell yourself you’d never do it:D)
As things turn out, you’ve got to make an effort to like him (kinda reminds me of Joey trying to get along with Janice:D) because you don’t want to end up losing her. But then, she also wants to talk to you when they’re having problems, and all the time you’re listening to her, the voice in your head goes “Dump him!!! You can definitely do better!!!!!” Now you obviously can’t say that, so all that can be done is to cross your fingers and hope she sees sense someday.
Conclusion: Even if your best friend’s dating a jerk, there’s no way you can stop seeing him.
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